Cheating

Top 5 Reasons Men Cheat

1. He feels unappreciated

Men find it unmanly to ask for any kind of appreciation in the relationship. This is the way it should be as nobody likes to have a nice thing done for them and then to ask for praise. If however you take everything for granted especially if he does to a lot for you, then you need to be warned, he may start looking for that appreciation elsewhere. You should try to set a culture in your relationship of appreciation and thoughtfulness. Once you have set the tone, he is likely to match it.
 

2. You cheated on him

You should know that men as well as women have extremely long memories. The emotional hurt and lack of respect you show when you cheat will scar your partner forever. If you have ever cheated on your partner, there is a chance your relationship can get back on the right track, however you do need to be aware, his instinct may be to think that if you did it to him, then he can do it to you. It is extremely difficult to get past this one as you cannot set one standard for yourself and another for him. My best advice… Don’t Cheat!

3. He needs excitement

If every night he gets home from work to find you sat on your phone to a friend or watching TV. If every time he asks you out to do something or go on a date, you are too busy or reject him, do not be surprised if he starts to get bored. Men need excitement and stimulation in their lives. This applies even more if he works long hours all day. Try to surprise him now and then with special treats. These don’t even have to cost anything. Give him massage, run him a hot bath, cook his favourite meal now and then. This leads back to the feeling of appreciation but it can also increase the general excitement levels of the relationship.

4. His friend/s cheated

If your partner ever tells you that his friend cheated on their partner, I recommend that you really take the time to sit down and tell him how digesting you find it. Even if you don’t care for or even  know his friend it is crucially important for you to let him know how utterly disgusting you find that kind of behaviour. It is your ideal opportunity to let him know just how strongly you feel about any kind of infidelity. He will soon realise that if he ever cheats on you, there will be no second chances.

5. There is something missing

It may surprise you to know that recent surveys carried out on cheating men fund that only 12% found the person they cheated with more attractive than their partners. It was less about the looks and more about the other person filling a need or a void that is missing in his life. Another shocking statistic from the survey  is that only 6% of men who have cheated, did it on the first night. The majority got to know the other person before they got into bed with them. This is in a strange way a positive as it means that when nipped in the bud, cheating behaviour can be avoided.

But to be fair, here are the Top 5 Reasons Women Cheat
 

1. Revenge

When a female has been taken advantage of, messed about, cheated on etc, she may eventually be pushed to seek out another man with whom she can have sex. The purpose of this is not to form a bond or start a new relationship, but literally just to get an emotional reaction from her partner. Often at this stage the relationship as already ended and this can be a way of making the female feel more control. It could alternatively be an attempt to find out whether her partner cares at all anymore. The other reason could be to end an on and off relationship for good. Either way, the revenge cheat is usually the final nail in the coffin.
 

2. Low self esteem

Low self esteem is now a days more common than it has ever been. No matter how well a woman is treated, she may never feel attractive enough, which can result in her cheating on her partner in an attempt to feel wanted by more than one man. Dealing with low self esteem in this way will never resolve the problem however people may not even be aware this is the reason for their infidelity. By the time they have received the compliments and the lift they feel from the attention from another man, it is too late and the cheating has happened. The unfortunate reality is that this feeling of low self esteem, although sometimes the result of a lack of attention from her partner, it is usually more of a psychological problem that she needs to address herself.
 

3. Partner has become “best friend”

Relationships go through many stages, but usually start out with some kind of a sexual attraction. At this stage, it is easy for the relationship to develop and move to the next stages. In these early stages you are both hot for each other and excited about the thought of seeing each other because you know there will be plenty of physical attraction. The problems can occur in the later stages of the relationship when this initial excitement wears off and things become a little more mundane. The day to day hum drum of waking up together, going to work, coming home both worn out each day can very quickly kill the initial spark and lead to more of a “friendship” than a relationship. At this stage the female may look for someone else because unfortunately like it or not, she doesn’t see her current partner in a sexual way anymore. She may love everything about the relationship but if the sex is missing, she may think that it is not such a bad thing to seek this elsewhere. This is obviously not good and she should not think this way. It is important for the female to discuss this with her partner and for him to understand before it gets to this. There are plenty of ways that the spark can be reignited with the right actions before any infidelity ruins things.
 

4. Falls in love with 2 people at the same time

There are some circumstances where shortly after starting a relationship, the girl can meet another guy innocently in the work place for example. She may find that one guy offers her all she likes in one department but the other offers another. In this situation, sometimes the girl can be weak and think it ok to have relationships with both guys. This is clearly a bad move on her part and will leave heartache all round.
 

5. Previous partner re-emerges

Sometimes when a relationship ends and it was not the girl that ended it, it can hit very hard. Although the guy ending it is clearly no longer interested and it is a great insult to the girl to be dumped, there will in the bottom of her heart still be a bit of a flame for the guy. If she then moves onto a new relationship, she can think she is as happy as can be but if that ex comes back into her life asking for another chance, old sparks can unfortunately rekindle. It is often difficult for her to say not to the ex because there is a reel boost to the self esteem when she knows she can have him again. Once again this is down to the woman to be strong and say no. He hurt her once so the chances are he will hurt her again.

 

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There are many reasons as to why people cheat and although some of them can make a lot of sense,
it is still down to the individual to make the choice as to whether they betray the person they are in a relationship with. 

No matter the reason or how it is justified, cheating (& lying!) is a terrible thing to do to someone. 

If you feel the need to do it, it is a huge sign you should not be in your current relationship. 

These things almost always come out in the end so it is much more mature and honest to sit down with your current partner
and sort things out first before doing anything you will regret.